I could really care less if Steve Harvey likes my hair to be quite honest. BUT, yesterday someone brought to my attention a topic that was discussed on his morning show and I just had to share it with my girls! From what I understand, the conversation went as follows (Special thanks to the person who shared this with me!):
A lady called in to ask the guest stylist a hair related question. As part of her question she mentions she is natural and wears her hair twisted and untwisted for the crinkled look. She wanted to know how to keep her hair from breaking and how to keep it moisturized. The guest stylist then proceeds to give her a product recommendation (from the line he was representing, Soft Sheen).
Steve then throws in the following question: Do you have a man? The caller responds by saying "yes", he then goes on to ask, "how does he like your hair?", she then says , "he doesn't like the natural look".... Steve's response: "I knew it! YOU GONNA LOSE YO' MAN!" and then they cut to a commercial.
He obviously hasn't seen MOST of us! Textured hair is gorgeous (what cave is he living in?)!!
How do you feel about this? Have you ever had a man tell you he didn't "like" your natural hair?
57 comments:
Big deal he doesn't care for the natural look. It's not about getting every black celebs stamp of approval in order to make us feel good about our hair. It's just hair! If you like your look that's all that matters.
People are entitled to their preferences. Some prefer straight. Some curly. Some long. Some short. etc.... You can't please everyone so we should all strive to please ourselves.
I've haven't encountered a man yet that didn't like my natural hair. They usually really like it and want to touch it/play in it all the time. I got hollas with my relaxed hair but I find that I get even MORE hollas now than I did when I was relaxed. So much for getting a "break" from that. Lol.
If a man doesn't like your natural hair then he doesn't like you. It's ok to prefer straight hair but I think you should attempt to love my hair however it is, because you love me.
I heard that mess too! I was already on the fence about Steve Harvey and all the silly comments he makes on a regular, but after this, I'm just not listening to him anymore. He's too ignorant, and just thinks he knows everything. From now I I will stick to the TJMS.
My husband loves my hair and I have been natural since '06. I would rather not take a guy who walked around with fake hair on his head opinion about my hair style of choice. He is just mad cuz he couldn't grow his own natural hair.
My fiancée LOVES my curls. He says "It relaxes him when he plays with my hair." and he completely prefers it to the straightened look. If the lady on that show loses her man because of her "natural hair" then she might be with the wrong man.
I thought my man wouldnt like my natural hair but he says he loves it..and more and more he gives me compliments..Steve Harvey just ignorant..and what the hell he know anyway he look a MESS with that bald head...smh
My first response was "says the man who has NO hair, LOL!"
Most men love my hair and want to touch it (which I politely decline). But honestly I have no clue because if they don't like it they do not approach me.
Honestly, I really don't care. I do not like my men bald but I'm not asking them to grow their hair out.
Steve got alot of mouth for someone who wore a lacefront all these years. LOL.
Girl, I wrote about the same thing last night!!! I was listening to the show and had an "h to the no" moment when Steve said that.
I feel like if my natural hair keeps Steve Harvey at bay, then I'm doing something correctly.
I have had an ex not like the new hairstyle, but that helps justify their ex status. One of the things that kept me from going natural for a bit was my belief that men preferred straight hair. In the end, straight, curly, kinky, relaxer or natural, confidence attracts. So as long as I love my hair, I'll find someone else who loves it too.
Who died and left Steve Harvey in charge of what men want, need and like!!! I can't stand his country a** anyway...Some nerve! Anyway I get so much more love being natural than I did when I was relaxed, because my natural hair exudes me from the inside and out, and I carry it well. My husband, my ex boyfriend, my sons, my father, even my mailman loves Natural Hair and they love me with my hair in it's natural state...Steve Harvey needs to step into reality and get out of the fairy land he's living in. (sheesh....woosah!)
I have actually heard a lot of men make outrageous comments about natural hair. I've heard things like she's pretty but she needs to do something with that hair...
I consider those comments ignorant and just move on with my life. Women who embrace their truly natural selves are inspiring and empowered in ways some wouldn't understand. I love my natural hair and any man who doesn't isn't for me.
I don't like his suits! So now, hmph.
He is sooooo not funny.
I stopped listening to Steve Harvey a long time ago because he really considers himself relationship guru. Either way, I think he was a bit out of line (even if he was joking) to say that she was going to lose her boyfriend over her hair. He knows how sensitive we black women are about our hair, I would expect him to know this...being a women expert and all. *rolling my eyes*
Being Natural is so beautiful. Most men I know prefer it over weaves. I don't understand people sometimes.
I dont even listen to Steve Harvey because I think he is a little too opinionated on just about everything. Nobody knows everything about everything and thats the way he acts. As far as his comment about the womens hair.... i dont think thats unusual. alot of men just as other women don't get natural hair. they think if its not bone straight and looking just like everyone else its unacceptable. my husband could really care less about my hair, because he didn't marry my hair he married me. there's a whole lot more to a person than hair
Natural, relaxed, weaved, straight, or curly, it's all fly. I've had it all and as everyone stated, natural hair is fabulous.
Man I wish there could've been a "natural call in convention" after that.
And I liked Tias comment about his suits. That was funny.
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Take it from where it's coming from. Steve Harvey's show is one of the most ignorant shows I have ever heard. Tell him to learn how to speak proper English!
This is why I've stopped listening to people who have nothing but negative things to say about the things I identify with. Tuning people out has done wonders for my stress and annoyance levels. So now, when someone says something that is pretty derogatory or negative... well, I don't know about it, because I'm not listening to them anyway. :o)
*Shout out to my girl ktc.*
Steve Harvey? Who gives a sh** he does not like natural hair. I don't like those loud, colorful suits he so proudly wears. I don't like his big lips. I don't like the way he looks! And trust me I could go on and on and on...
mine loves it ... so what is Steve talking about?! LoL
LMAO @ all these replies. Steve Harvey holds no credibility in my opinion when it comes to what men love. When I can even stomach listening to his ignan't-ass speak on the subject of relationships, all I can think of is, yeah, you should know being that you're on what? wife #3 or something like that....
Steve Harvey is a complete fool. I have heard his show a few times, and I don't even know how people can stand to listen to that man. He thinks he is some kind of expert on what men want and how women should act to get and keep a man. He doesn’t know a damn thing. I wouldn’t take any he has to say to thought.
I heard it and was so disgusted by it, he have also said this many other times in the past, they all are against natural hair. The guest stylist was so product driven he didnt really answer the ladies question and he recommended the product and she was quick to say she was going to buy it that day. The show has also changed alot its so product driven and way to many infomercials.
You know what? This is strike two against him for me. First he acted a plum fool on that tv special about black single and successful women, now this. His opinion is not that of an expert! He doesnt like natural hair because he cant grow his own!
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To me, the issue doesn't lie in ones' preference. It's the reference that because she has chosen something that, can be so liberating, he has said she'll loose her man. THAT is the kind of thing that puts pressure on women to go back to chemicals in their natural journey and if she isn't strong can have sister second guessing herself and her relationship.
I don't agree with the statement 'it's just hair'... If it were than in the Black community and outside we'd be more supportive... or wouldn't talk about it at all. Hair is a big deal, it says a LOT about whom we are as people... Or at least people (including employer's) see it that way.
I'm really disappointed in Mr. Harvey. I think I may write his show!
I really hope as a people we'll develop confidence, in this issue, and be free to just BE! It's really sad we often don't have a lot of support!
LOL! Steve Harvey?! Surely my eyes deceive me! I'm not affected one way or another by anything he says. That guy is a joke.
No, I have never had a guy tell me he didn't like my natural hair.
Aww, I'm bothered by this. I used to like him too. Now I'm not sorry that I have the leaked copy of his book. Boo on Steve!
That is such an ignorant statement, and shows no love for us natural sistahs. Much love to all of my natural sistahs, whose scalps no longer hurt, temples are no longer tender, etc. :-)
A man must love me just as I am. Period.
I've had the exact opposite problem. I meet so many men who have a strong distaste for weaves that since I've gone natural I've longed for straight hair again but I'm so nervous that certain men will no longer be interested in me. Because of the humidity I wear my hair natural but I've worn weaves for over a year and I've been single either way.
What the heck? Ok, whatever lol
Alot of times those comments that radio & TV hosts make are to stir up the controversy pot.Steve knew that comment would get naturals blood boiling! Wendy Williams, Tom Joyner, & the other white man with curly hair (what's his name?)that's what they do...
The naturals that luv being natural, will of course stay natural. This is a lifestyle for us girls, one comment or 100 comments wont make us run to sally's for a box perm! LOL!
Alot of times those comments that radio & TV hosts make are to stir up the controversy pot.Steve knew that comment would get naturals blood boiling! Wendy Williams, Tom Joyner, & the other white man with curly hair (what's his name?)that's what they do...
The naturals that luv being natural, will of course stay natural. This is a lifestyle for us girls, one comment or 100 comments wont make us run to sally's for a box perm! LOL!
Alot of times those comments that radio & TV hosts make are to stir up the controversy pot.Steve knew that comment would get naturals blood boiling! Wendy Williams, Tom Joyner, & the other white man with curly hair (what's his name?)that's what they do...
The naturals that luv being natural, will of course stay natural. This is a lifestyle for us girls, one comment or 100 comments wont make us run to sally's for a box perm! LOL!
Wow that crazy, they cut to commercial cause they didn't want to lose that advertising money, but shame on him.
And who is he to know what ALL men like and do not like? I'm spending my Saturday morning following up on the weeks blogs and this has to be the most ridiculous thing I have read so far. Natural hair may not be his cup of tea but I promise you there are other men out there that love it.
I have had a few brothers say they did not like my hair and it did not phase me one bit because there were things about them that were turnoffs to me just like with all people you meet. It's called a preference and we are all entitled to have one but his generalization is totally off the mark. Guess people will say anything for attention.
I probably would've taken that statement differently if it were made by someone else. However, I listen to his show often and he always says CRAZY stuff!!! So I understand!!! LOL I wouldn't take his comment seriously! He is hilarious and that show has me CRYING laughing most mornings!
Steve Harvey? Please! He's no real relationship guru and is damn sure no haircare expert. Well, unless it's on flat-top lace fronts.
Hi everyone. I'm new to the site and new to this journey of natural hair. It makes me upset when I see comments like this. To be honest I think comments like Steve's make me want to go natural even more. Nobody clowned him when he decided to wear his natural hair. ;)
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I'm newly natural so the answer to your question is no. However, when I told my aunt I was transitioning to natural her response was "your momma gave you a perm for a reason". She said it in a joking way but I knew she was serious. Good thing this is my hair!
I think Steve Harvey and his thrice married self needs to shut up. I have no idea who deemed him capable of relationship advice but he annoys me with his old timey country views of how we as African American women should conduct ourselves.
Steve is a comedian. All I want from him are jokes.
its fine if he does not like natural hair but to think a woman cant get a man because she wears natural hair is ridiculous! and such an ignorant statement!!!
I couldn't care less what Steve Harvey thinks about our hair or anything else. He daily celebration of ignorance is why I stopped listening to him years ago. I got tired of hearing him say "I'm ignant ..." as if that were cute. That said, how a man feels about natural hair has been a screening question that determines whether he gets me to give him the time of day for a few years. I have really curly hair (which it took me years to learn to love). One ex-boyfriend (who I was dating before I started wearing my hair curly) told me that my hair looked like a "sheep's ass" and that he wouldn't have started dating me with it that way. Needless to say his butt was outta there! Ironically, dude was otherwise super pro-Black but when it comes to his women likes light skin and long straight hair, even if you have to buy it to get it that way. Fortunately my fiance loves my hair (in large part because its so low maintenance, I am always ready to go swimming, etc.).
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It really disappoints me that this natural v. relaxed hair thing has become so divisive in our community. As a young black woman with shoulder length relaxed hair (YES, it's ALL mine!), I hate the slick comments about me "thinking I'm white" and the like because of my hair. I think that I should be able to wear my hair the way I like it because I like it just like you natural ladies should wear yours the way you like it because you like it. At the end of the day, as long as it looks good and is healthy be happy. Don't knock another sista because her hair is natural, relaxed, texturized, curled, or anything in between, but always be willing to help another sista achieve the healthiest hair possible. Much love!
I was never really a Steve Harvey fan. He just seems really ignorant to me.
My honey loves my hair anyway I wear it. When it's in twist/ twist out, pressed, dripping wet out the shower or in a puff. He gives the best head massages.When we first started I asked what he preferred and his response was as long as your happy with it I'm happy. <3
Not that I care about Steve's opinion one way or the other but I believe that his statement whether serious or not was ignorant. I am currently single but I've never had a guy who hasn't liked my natural hair. Recently I was dating someone and when he first met me I was wearing a lace front, the next time he saw me the lace front was gone and my curly fro was in full effect...he told me he actually like my fro better...so BOOM!!!! lol
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He is such an idiot. Ugh makes me wish that I had called in and he had asked me and I would have let him know that my man loves my natural hair, every little aspect of it.
oooh Im late so sorry for the late response! I've never experienced that and I think growing up with negative dark skin comments I expected to, but I get all positives and I think it's party because my natural look makes me look like I'm African or I get Haitian a lot so....actually I got that period:) But point being I thing guys get that this is what I'm suppose to look like and just enjoy it and perhaps those that don't have the good enough sense as my mom would say:) To hush about it.
On the topic of men caring I say it all of the time I wouldn't so much care if a guy liked my hair or not, I do hate when black men don't. I don't care if you're married to the whitest of white women and they use her pic as an example for the definition of white, I don't understand people that don't find the beauty in their own. Doesn't really have to do with a preference how could you not like what is you, especially when it comes to hair because it's the same hair our men are growing!! And with our history it stems from so much more so that would be what I hate about it concerning black men.
it's so funny I came to your blog and saw this topic. I was dating a guy back in college and I had wanted to go natural. This guy told me that we would never have kids because of my nappy hair. He is from Trinidad so they have the coolie, curly look and my family is Bajan and African American. His response made me want to grow my hair out even more so pretty much the entire time we dated, my hair was in a huge afro, nice and nappy. And to tell the truth eff him and his bald ass!
My husband is Nigerian and I told him I was going to stop straightening my hair so I can allow it to grow and become healthy. I told him I want to wear it in it's natural straight he was not too happy about it. He don't say much now it is going on about two months since the BC but straightened my hair is to my shoulders 12 months of new growth before the BC. The test will really come in a few weeks when I join him for 3 months he is away. I know for a fact he prefers straight hair. I told him that I want my hair to grow long and healthy and I can't do that straightening it everyday. He told me ok baby. lol what can he say but he wants me to have healthy hair too.
I agree with you's who say if she loses her man because of her natural look then she is with the wrong man! Take me as I am or not at all!
Steve Harvey is just an ignorant person, period. His old tale is just trying to hang on to his young wife or girlfriend, whichever she is. What business of his if this caller has a man or not? It seems like he can't keep a woman, what number wife is this current woman? AND, he's one to talk about hair since he's been wearing a natural hair toupee (wig) for years to hide his baldness. He wasn't fooling anyone (at least not me!), I remember when he used to host the Showtime at the Apollo show & I guess he forgot to check the mirror, because his toupee was hanging crooked! He is always putting women down, I personally don't listen to him & whatever he says isn't worth a grain of salt. He may be a comedian but he is dead serious about his comments about black women and natural hair. To ME, it's not about preference, it's about accepting black women period. You hate OUR NATURAL hair, you hate yourself, period!
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Steve Harvey is ignorant. I stopped listening to him years ago because his country a** thinks he knows everything.
Back to the hair issue, I am not natural, but I have nothing against natural hairstyles. You ladies keep rockin' what God gave you and be proud to be natural. I'm thinking of going natural myself - so sick of touch-ups and scalp burns.
Most men i meet love the versatility of natural hair. My hair is natural and All i ever received from men are compliments. :)
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